One Man, One Woman and a Mistress?

Like many other people have in recent years, she told her mother and father about her relationship. She has entered into a very loving, very deep Triune (three people married to one another) marriage. But it wouldn’t have mattered if it was a Trine (a Triune Marriage), a lesbian relationship, impending marriage to a Black or Hispanic or Muslim, or even marriage to someone of a religion they don’t accept as a “good American one.” They disowned her because she didn’t live life their way according to the “values” that they espoused.

Of course, her father is having an affair. Her mom probably knows about it, but is probably too afraid to mention it. They said “We’re traditional Americans. We believe in one man and one woman in holy matrimony.” Ummmhmmm….one man, one woman and a mistress or three. But she is wrong because her relationship doesn’t fit the mold of their narrow Republican way of life.

What business it is of ANYONE’s what someone else, even one’s grown children, do with their genitals is beyond me. How someone else’s marriage to another person or other persons effects THEIR marriage I’ve never had anyone explain…well, I’ll take that back. I had ONE person explain it. My friend, we’ll call him “Edison,” a Republican and an Evangelical, told me the truth. He said it was about money. He said that Republicans didn’t want alternative relationships to have the same tax breaks, insurance and other privileges that traditionally married people have. Typical Christian reaction….they want to keep all of their privileged place in society and deny it to everyone else.

This is a major problem in American society. Republicans, Christians, etc. want to have a privileged position and deny that to everyone else. Disgusting and morally reprehensible.

Many (perhaps most) Christians who condemn others are terrible hypocrites as I think the ongoing revelations about pastors of mega-churches and their boy-toys, girl-toys and affairs clearly show. Tim Haggerty at Grace Church in Highlands Ranch preached on Sunday against gay relationships at the same time as he was being anally penetrated several times a month by a gay prostitute. Gee….I wonder where in their narrow little Baaable they get the exception for top ministers being buggered by gay prostitutes? Must be toward the rear of the Bible.

These people are the truly disgusting people of the world. Jesus called them “Whitewashed tombs.” Outside they put on their pillar of the community airs and pretensions while inside they are filled with hypocrisy, hate, bigotry, lying, thieving and betrayal. Jesus NEVER criticized a gay or lesbian relationship (yes, they had them back then). He never said much about people sleeping with other people. He had LOTS to say about the “vipers brood” who were the pillars of the community. Jesus DESPISED these people. The very people who hurt and reject those who are honest about their love relationships and whom they choose to love using Jesus’ Name and their “Christian” and “Traditional ‘Merican” values are the very people that Jesus would completely reject. He even said that prostitutes, thieves and murderers would be admitted to the Kingdom of Heaven, but these people would not.

Truly I say to the preachers, the ministers, the “righteous,” the “pillars of the community,” the “good upright honest Americans” and others who condemn people for whom they love and what they are — gays, lesbians, polygamists, and others are much better people than you are in the eyes of God. God cares far more for people who love than you who hate, who are bigoted, who reject your own children, and condemn the sexual choices of others than God does for you. You “good upright people,” right wingers, talk show hosts, conservative Republicans, and so on, are the truly evil of the earth. In your board rooms, your petty little churches and your cliques of organizations, and, yes, even around your kitchen table, is most of the true evil of the world planned. In these places you support slavery in other countries, torture by Americans (even of Americans, much less others who were innocent) and unspeakable horrors. You and your violence, hatred and strife are responsible for much of the pain of this world. You deserve whatever harsh judgment any God might mete out, if there is such a thing. In the heaven I believe in, there is no place for you, as heaven is love and all you do is hate.

Spiritual People are open and accepting of the choices of others. I despise most of what Evangelicals, Pentecostals, Roman Catholics, etc. teach. Yet, I would defend to the death their right to believe and preach their flatheaded idiocy. This is the difference between us. I would defend in every way possible their right to live any way they want. They would defend to the death their right to force me to live their way, even if it means torturing me, killing me, jailing me, taking away my civil liberties, etc. It is very clear to me that their way, although I would defend their right to believe it and live it, is very evil, and the way of the Spiritual People who would defend the rights of even people who hate them, is a way of Light.

I would hasten to add that not all who espouse Evangelicalism, Pentecostalism, etc. are like this. Many are loving and open people who are not judgmental of others. But these, sadly, are the exception.

Those who live in judgment and hate convince themselves that their own peccadilloes are simply “small lapses.” They “can’t help it,” even though they’re “sinning.” A Tim Hagggerty possibly believes that he is above the very “law of God” that he preaches (as well as ignoring the Baaable he pretends to preach). They compartmentalize and convince themselves, somehow, that they are not hypocrites. Rather than placing themselves in with all of humanity and realizing that an ideal sexual relationship doesn’t exist, they judge others while they, themselves, pay for prostitutes (gay or lesbian or straight), diddle the altar boys or parishioners, and somehow justify what they’re pulling as they condemn others who do the exact same things. As Jesus said, he won’t judge anyone. Their very own words and actions judge them without Jesus having to do a thing. Those who are loving and accepting are loved and accepted by God. Those who are hypocritical and hateful are unable to be in the Presence of God.

Make no mistake that this is what the “culture wars” are really all about. There is one side that insists that others live their way. There is another side that insists that people be left alone and unmolested to live any way they wish without interference by the government or the church or anything else. One side coerces, the other side just wants to be left alone to live and love. I know which side I’m on. I also am pretty sure which side is more on the side of Light and which side serves Darkness. How about you?

Love, peace, freedom, and prosperity.

J.